Monday: Tasseography

Oct. 12th, 2026 06:37 am
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tasseography (tass-OG-ruh-fee or tass-EE-og-ruh-fee)

noun
divination with tea leaves

examples
1. Kuma's transgression is something known to its practitioners as tasseography. Witchcraft Prosecutions In Israel, Christopher 2007

2. Forty years of military rule has produced a dictatorship of tasseography, where people whisper instead of talk and everyday life is calibrated for survival. Reading Tea, Leaves 2004

origin
a macaronic blend of French tasse ("cup") and -graphy ("writing")

tasseography

Witch Hat Atelier (Anime)

Oct. 11th, 2026 08:42 pm
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Coco is a girl in a world where magic exists in the natural world, but the only humans who can use it are witches. Witches are born with their abilities: either you have them or you don't. Or so everyone believes. But Coco longs for magic - a longing that leads to the disastrous discovery that anyone can do magic if they learn how. Or, in her case, if they get their hands on a forbidden book and try it out with no idea what she's doing. Consequently, Coco is whisked to a magic school, where becomes one of three little girl students, all with adorable color coding and personal insecurities.

This anime is a charming mix of cozy wish-fulfillment - learn magic! fly! sleep on clouds! get an animal companion! take an important test with penguin-griffins! make friends! heal from emotional trauma! - and a darker ongoing story about evil witches and the ethics of gatekeeping. The incredibly beautiful landscape and weird adorable animals are post-apocalyptic, after endless magical battles transformed them. (Kind of the cozy anime version of the Commonweal.)

[personal profile] eglantiere screened this anime for me. Just look how gorgeous it is! And the whole series is like that, with background details beautifully delineated and so many shots that make you want to step into the screen.









The anime, which is very recent, ends on a cliffhanger. Hopefully there will be a second season. But if not, the manga is ongoing so you can watch the anime and then switch to the manga. I'm told the anime is extremely faithful.

Sunday Word: Bildungsroman

Oct. 11th, 2026 01:56 pm
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Bildungsroman [bil-doongz-roh-mahn, beel-doongks-raw-mahn]

noun:
a novel concerned with a person's formative years and development


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Examples:

Kuang once again crafts a unique Bildungsroman that doesn't fulfill the usual expectations for what fantasy is or perhaps, what a Western fantasy is expected to be - and that is its most profound strength. (Hanh Nguyen, Salon’s favorite books of 2022 - fiction and nonfiction, Salon, December 2022)

Herzog’s early years read like a Bildungsroman, like something he had immortalised in one of his own films. (Xan Brooks, Werner Herzog: 'I'm fascinated by trash TV. The poet must not avert his eyes', The Guardian, June 2020)

A classic bildungsroman follows the growth and development of a young person, who typically matures from a dreamer into a rational being. Jane Austen was a master of the genre: in her posthumously published novel Northanger Abbey, she satirizes the overly imaginative Catherine Morland, a voracious reader who perceives her life as a Gothic story. (Bekah Waalkes, The Enlightenment Is Just One Side of the Story, The Atlantic, October 2024)

Now, for English-speakers, the arts journalist Jackie Wullschlager has written not the prettified fairy tale of Andersen’s life, but his bildungsroman. Her moving and well-written book compels interest in Andersen’s life, even for non-Danes. (Alexandra Mullen, Gulliver among swans, New Criterion, September 2001)

Origin:

'novel set in the formative years, or the time of spiritual education, of the main character,' 1910, from German Bildungsroman, from Bildung 'education, formation, growth' (from Bild 'picture, image, figure') + roman 'novel'. German Bild is from Old High German bilade, from Proto-Germanic biliþja or bilaþja, the source also of Dutch beeld, Old English biliþe, but the ultimate origin is unknown. (Online Etymology Dictionary)

'Bildungsroman' is the combination of two German words: Bildung, meaning 'education,' and Roman, meaning 'novel.' Fittingly, a 'bildungsroman' is a novel that deals with the formative years of the main character - in particular, his or her psychological development and moral education. The bildungsroman usually ends on a positive note with the hero's foolish mistakes and painful disappointments over and a life of usefulness ahead. Goethe's late 18th-century work Wilhelm Meisters Lehrjahre (Wilhelm Meister's Apprenticeship) is often cited as the classic example of this type of novel. Though the term is primarily applied to novels, in recent years, some English speakers have begun to apply the term to films that deal with a youthful character's coming-of-age. (Merriam-Webster)

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Oct. 10th, 2026 09:50 am
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I have just finished reading THE DUKE, the romance with the premise of 'what if all the beats of a Sexy Duke regency romance, but lesbians!' To this end IMO it succeeds admirably and how much you enjoy it I suspect will depend on whether you will be excited or disappointed to see those lesbians confidently, passionately and unswervingly marching along the beat sheet. I personally did not enjoy this as much as Cowan's previous novel Untamed, which is far too unhinged to hit a single expected beat, but I do think the beat-sheet quality of THE DUKE is intentional and that Anna Cowan is in on the joke.

I, of course, am most interested in the worldbuilding. In the world of THE DUKE, as far as I can tell, everything about gender relations and regulations is as regency-romance normal except that women in England can inherit titles, allowing them to step into the highly specific gender category that is SEXY DUKE or perhaps GENDER: CRAVAT. This does not seem to trickle down through the rest of society; we never meet a female blacksmith or lawyer, though we do meet a butch valet-to-a-sexy-duke and a butch one-eyed duke's bastard-daughter-slash-personal-assassin, which leads me to believe that in this universe perhaps access to butchness is dependent on proximity to the GENDER: CRAVAT aristocracy. On the other hand, the only other societal stratus we ever spend time in is Starving French Prostitute so maybe middle-class butches do abound in England's green and pleasant land and we are simply as little concerned with them as the average regency romance is with anybody outside of an aristocratic household, which: fair! that's the beat sheet!

Anyway, the plot is that a starving French prostitute, in possession of a Sexy Duke's tragic-backstory-related compromising letter after a passionate one-night encounter in the early days of the Revolution*, decides to blackmail said Sexy Duke into launching her into society and setting her up with a good aristocratic marriage. Obviously they instead fall in love. The book briefly flirts with engaging its own premise more deeply by introducing a political plot about changing the inheritance laws back to patrilineal and disinheriting all Sexy Butch Dukes, but every time this comes up the political situation immediately collapses into a personal referendum on THE DUKE and Her New Mysterious Sexy And Charming French Ward and whether people broadly like them, so alas for me it does not tell me very much at all about the broader political context.

*we are Not Engaging with the political-philosophical debate about the French Revolution at this time. the point is, the prostitutes are starving

I did laugh out loud at the introduction of a Louche Butch Drunken Rake as well as the Butch One-Eyed DUke's Bastard Daughter-Slash-Personal-Assassin. I would not at all be surprised to see these two characters appear as romantic GENDER: CRAVAT leads in future books. I will be more surprised -- but pleased! -- if any of those hypothetical future books reveal any more information about what [personal profile] genarti has described as the trickle-down gender economics of the premise. I guess we'll find out!

Saturday word: Plov

Oct. 10th, 2026 08:31 pm
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Greetings, and apologies for prolonged absence--I just don't seem to get on DW much these days. Plus my work schedule changed, so, sometimes, I'll be posting on Saturdays instead of Thursdays. Many thanks to everyone for continuing to post, read, and comment in this comm!

Today's word is plov: a traditional Middle Asian rice dish (yes, similar to rice pilaf).

You can read about the Uzbek variant of it, and see photos here:

https://www.anitasfeast.com/blog/2012/11/plov-uzbekistans-legendary-national-dish/

Spooktober 10

Oct. 10th, 2026 07:06 pm
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Going door-to-door and asking for treats/sweets: in your country/culture, when do people do that?

This question occurred to me in part because in addition to the trick-or-treat custom we have in America, there are caroling traditions in the UK (and Europe? Y/N?) AND, R's children told me that when they were living in Ethiopia, they participated in something where boys went door-to-door with staffs, did a dance, and received bread baked fresh for the occasion or, more recently, money.

I looked around online, and it seems to be the festival of Buhe, celebrating the Transfiguration of Christ. More information in this article. R was telling me about the special bread, and I was thinking it would be fun to try making.
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Women and girls covered in fungal growths cut them off to make themselves into wives for human men; one girl-become-wife, Nicole, is more drawn to her fungal friend, Teagan.

If you're in the mood for weird, surreal, sapphic, feminist, mushroom body horror, this book is for you. It does a great job of presenting Nicole's very alien point of view, and also how she sees human men as the true aliens. It's novella length but could have been shorter than it was - there's a long middle stretch where nothing much is happening but a long string of lushly surreal descriptions - but what it's generally going for, it does well. Think The Stepford Wives meets The Girl With All the Gifts by way of Jeff Vandermeer.

Content notes: Violence against women, suicide, forced pregnancy, TONS of body horror. There is also detailed and pervasive rape and sexual assault, though the main character doesn't perceive it that way because she's mostly a mushroom.

The Vanished Sister by Sherry Thomas

Oct. 9th, 2026 09:03 pm
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The Vanished Sister

4/5. Ninth book in this genderbent Sherlock with a lot of other things going on. Do not start here.

I really liked this one. Mrs. Watson’s estranged sister comes back into her life, launching a twisty, dark psychological ride. This one is about family secrets, and sisters of blood and sisters of the heart. And the mystery is done so skillfully; you can’t actually figure out some parts of it until Charlotte tells you, but some parts you delightfully can, and anyway that’s not the point. The point is the pastiche, and the puzzle is actually ‘wait, why is Charlotte asking that, what is she thinking.’ Sherry Thomas is so good at this, it’s honestly unfair.

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Oct. 9th, 2026 08:08 pm
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I really enjoyed The Apple and the Pearl, which I would describe sort of as a bittersweet fantasy mosaic novel set in the milieu of the all-timer This American Life episode "Music of the Night after Night after Night."

The Apple and the Pearl takes place over the course of one day on a train that carries a traveling ballet theater from place to place. Every night, the company puts on the same show, "The Apple and the Pearl", in the middle of the woods or a field or a meadow -- today happening to be All Souls', it's a graveyard -- for an audience of weird haunted faerie creatures. And every day, before the show happens, they go through all the ordinary business of a ballet company: changing up the casting, endless rehearsals, setting up the backdrops, flirting, rehashing old arguments, introducing new trainees, dodging that one lighting guy who's always making uncomfortable jokes, avoiding that other musician who's been sobbing about his lost love for months now, eternal massive rounds of laundry with insufficient laundry machines.

And it's all normal! It's largely very normal, and very banal, except that you don't talk about the people who disappear with the fairies -- it happens, every once in a while -- though that's actually not what happened to the musician's lost love, she just broke up with him normally and decided not to renew her contract with the weird fantasy mystery train and got another job, which makes it extra annoying to everyone else that he's still summoning magical sorrows for the whole company every time he plays that one second act solo. And maybe one or two of the company members know a little more about the lands of fairy than the rest -- maybe some of them have even spent some time there -- but for every girl who sees ghosts or exiled changeling still looking for a way home, there's another member of the company whose biggest concerns today are 'the ballet mistress still thinks I am doing a bad job' or 'I have been dating this other dancer for sooo long and I don't know how to break up with him' or 'my son's tuition bills are stacking up again and my ex isn't helping AND the hot lesbians haven't texted me back'.

And over the course of All Souls' Day, we're going to spend a little bit of time with all of them: the dancers, the musicians, the costumers, the lighting techs, the company manager and the company cook, everybody who keeps the train going and ensures that night after night, the show goes on. It's not so much a story with a plot as a series of portraits, with a kind of increasing weight of tension as the day approaches its end; for much of the book there's nothing particularly different about this day to set it apart from any other day on the train, so of course, as the book goes on, you-the-reader start to wonder, why are we seeing this day? and wait for whatever might be coming before the book closes. But me, I'm just happy to see a ballet fantasy that is not only very good about the realities of ballet but gives equal weight to all the people who are involved in putting a show on stage, the front- and back-of-house, the glamor and the magic and the quest after an impossible perfection and the repetition and the boredom and the endless and eternal loads of laundry, and I enjoyed this one very much.

Spooktober 9

Oct. 9th, 2026 07:14 pm
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Late in the day, but the prompt for Spooktober 9 is...

What are your thoughts on vampires?

Coffee Shop Review: Shortwave Coffee

Oct. 9th, 2026 03:17 pm
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Shortwave Coffee, near Lyndale & 50th St

(convenient after visiting Goodwill to drop off donations!)

Hours: 7:30am - 6pm

Vibe: Whimsical, good for fighting the winter blues with plentiful warm lighting hanging from the ceiling, some small real plants, plus lichen-backed letter signs and fake green wall behind the counter. Not decorated for Halloween. Very busy when I visited at 10am, with almost everyone on their laptop, but it emptied out around noon (presumably as people went to find food).

Lighting: Loads. A ceiling of bare-bulb warm lights hanging from a wood lattice, plus the street-facing wall that was a storefront window.

Seating situation: Not good for large groups. Small tables that would seat up to 4, counter seating in front of the street-facing window, a couch and a couple of armchairs. No foot rail for the tall chairs.

Food and drinks: Fairly standard drink menu for coffee and tea, plus many flavors of syrups. A small case of unlabeled pastries. No gluten-free options, no obvious vegan options. Drink menu offers “alternative milk” for an extra $1.

Power outlets: In a few locations, not available to the tables in the center of the room.

Bathroom: Private all-gender single seat bathroom, no urinal, no changing table.

Dog-friendly: Yes, including indoors. Two very nice pooches visited while I was there.

Patio: Not much, a couple of small tables.

Parking: Free street parking nearby.

Neighborhood: Busy commercial corner, but near residential. Patina gift shop across the street, and a couple of restaurants that were open for lunch.


Dear Festividder

Oct. 9th, 2026 10:20 am
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Letter TK, I really will fill it out this year.

Friday Word: Cornucopia

Oct. 9th, 2026 08:54 am
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Cornucopia - noun.

Canadians will be celebrating Thanksgiving this weekend (surprise to our non-Canadian friends!). A classic Thanksgiving symbol is the cornucopia or horn of plenty. In Ancient Greece it was also called the horn of Amalthea after Amalthea, one of Zeus' nurses, who allegedly hid him from his father Cronus.

Did you know the cornucopia is a classic symbol and design element? It appears in more places than one might think, such as this art deco design below.



Art Deco cornucopias of Avenue des Champs-Élysées no. 77, Paris, unknown architect, c.1930
By Polymagou - Own work, CC BY-SA 4.0, Link


New Worlds: Furnishing a Room

Oct. 9th, 2026 08:20 am
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I've mentioned before that until you have industrialization or some equivalent that makes the manufacture of things easier, people will own a lot less stuff, furniture included. But what does that look like in practice? What is a person's house likely to include and exclude?

Probably the first thing to be invented was the chest or box, and not just because it's useful for keeping your belongings from rolling around loose on the floor. It gives them (some) protection from vermin, and also -- once locks are invented, about six thousand years ago -- protection from thieves. Chests are useful for organization, for transport, for a bunch of different purposes.

Including subbing in for other pieces of furniture! I'm sure we've all experienced the phenomenon of every available flat surface ending up with stuff on it; well, boxes have a long history of doubling as tables, perhaps with a set of boards laid across the top to expand the surface and give somewhere for your knees to go, which can be removed when the table isn't in use. Smaller boxes become stools to sit on, with or without cushions for padding. Long chests, topped with a mattress, have served as beds -- which probably adds to the security if your valuables are inside. It'll be one heck of a skilled thief who can get in there without waking you up.

Sleeping atop a chest is also good for getting you off the floor, which means you're away from cold drafts and less likely (though not guaranteed) to have a mouse or a beetle run across your face. But we've already covered beds, back in Year Four, so I won't repeat all that here. Instead let's go back to what's early and common: the shelf.

This can either be a freestanding structure or something fixed to the wall, and it has the obvious merit of expanding your storage options vertically, making better use of the space. But while people nowadays tend to use shelves in the public parts of our houses for storing things like books, photos, and pretty knick-knacks, in earlier times they'll be much more like a modern pantry or garage, holding utility items. And, again, holding them away from vermin, though enterprising critters will still find a way. Meanwhile, purpose-built tables (as opposed to repurposed chests) offer storage room beneath, again making better use of what would otherwise be wasted space.

(By the way, if you want to see "making better use of the space" really take off in a modern context, look at tiny houses or watch a Japanese home remodeling show. When you're operating in close quarters, ingenuity around where to put shelves, cabinets, closets, and other storage rules the day. I have to imagine the same would be true of some futuristic person living in an orbital habitat or other confined place.)

Combine shelves with chests, and you get cabinets. As anybody with a chest-style freezer knows, a top-opening box can be a nightmare for internal organization; one that opens on the side and has subdivisions within is vastly more useful. Drawers seem to be a much later development, though, which makes sense when you think about the additional material required and the woodworking challenge of getting the drawer to slide in and out anything like smoothly.

What about chairs? These are shaped by both history and culture. They exist going back for thousands of years, especially when you include stools (folding or rigid) alongside chairs with backs. But they've often been elite or special-use items, with most people -- even rich people! -- sitting on floor cushions; Elizabeth I's ladies-in-waiting took their meals in chairs at tables, but sat on the floor the rest of the time. There's a practical reason for this: when most rooms are heated by wood fires in a hearth, being on the floor puts you below the worst of of the smoke. As chimneys improve, though, smoke reduces, and chairs become more appealing places to be.

But bring your cushion with you. I haven't been able to find out when attached upholstery was first developed; quite possibly we don't know, given how poorly materials like that would survive archaeologically. Regardless of timing, it's definitely only for the wealthy, and not just because of the added expense: think about the difficulty of keeping it clean and vermin-free. A ruined cushion can easily be thrown away, but ruined upholstery has to be torn off and replaced, or a new chair acquired.

Then there's the category of furniture that goes under many names: couch, sofa, settee, and more. These have come and gone, and they blur into other categories as well (a "couch" originally meant a bed). Once again, I think these more often had removable mattresses and cushions rather than the installed upholstery we're used to. The Greeks, Etruscans, and Romans dined on such things, chaise longue-type couches where they could recline while they ate, rather than sitting upright. After that went out of fashion in Europe (apparently during the medieval period!), the sofa, to use its Turkish-derived name, came to be associated with the Middle East, and only filtered back into Europe later.

Furniture, of course, comes in many more kinds than this. We have specialized versions of the items I've already mentioned, like end tables and footstools and étagères and curio cabinets and trundle beds and recliners and . . . you get the point. We also have pieces of furniture built for specific purposes not needed in most of the past, like the filing cabinet in my office. But that all comes later, with wealth and especially with the cheaper production afforded by industrialization. (Though it's not purely a one-way street: we no longer have things like free-standing braziers to help heat our rooms.)

That doesn't mean, however, that the future is going to be even more furniture-crammed. Fashion plays a role here; one generation will fill their houses full of stuff, and then the next will rebel against all that clutter and strip down toward a more minimalist look. The shift to digital technology and other modes of entertainment has greatly reduced the need for bookshelves in some households, or filing cabinets, or other things meant to wrangle paper in its various forms. If we improve both 3D printing and the recycling of its materials, then we might be able to create furniture when it's needed, then get rid of it as soon as the use has passed.

The key point is that our current state of furnishing is neither universal nor inevitable. And changing up what's in the room may change how the characters behave there!

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(originally posted at Swan Tower: https://www.swantower.com/2026/10/09/new-worlds-furnishing-a-room/)

A Better World, Sarah Langan

Oct. 8th, 2026 11:13 pm
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A Better World has a great concept: folk horror in a near-future dystopian company town. The setting is unpleasantly plausible in a “20 minutes into the future” manner. Everything is miserable, but some giant corporations have company towns where people can get health care, housing, etc. They don’t get salaries, working only for benefits, and can get fired at any time and for any reason. But it’s so much better than everywhere else that spots in town are very competitive.

The book starts promisingly, with the main character and her family getting hired, moving in, and discovering that the town has some very strange traditions (instantly recognizable to anyone who reads folk horror), and also a lot of strange genetically engineered birds wandering around.

Folk horror often works more by anticipation than surprise. Readers know the town has weird cults and the new people are probably marked to be sacrificed. The enjoyment is in following their slow realization, learning the creepy details, and finding out whether or not they’ll escape their fate. But A Better World is too predictable. It’s obvious what the town’s dark secrets are, to the point where the heroine seems slow. There’s also an odd thread where she and her family are hazed to the point where they consider leaving, only for Sarah to be randomly befriended by a powerful woman. It’s a pointless plotline with a random resolution.

The birds do play into the ending, but nowhere near as satisfyingly as I had hoped. ( Read more... )

Generally, the book felt underwhelming. It does have very fun interstitial bits of town propaganda.

We just keep trying

Oct. 8th, 2026 12:30 pm
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New story out today in Lightspeed: Until the Cure is about eldercare, exhaustion, and supporting each other through the worst of it. It's feeling appropriate in my extended family (thankfully not in my household) today, but then I think, well, when wouldn't it, that's kind of why I wrote it....

This and that and coffee

Oct. 8th, 2026 09:06 am
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Oh hey, it's been a minute. I've been both busy and lax. Errands, so many errands, and a couple of lunches with friends. It was miserably gloomy for awhile and then we had a heat wave; in both kinds of weather I succumbed to naps. The cold I thought I picked up at the Squeeze concert turned out to be the flu. Ironically, I got my yearly flu shot after I got better, plus a Covid booster. Wow, my arms felt like a mule kicked each one. That's never happened to me before, I usually don't react much to anything. But I'm now perfectly well and vaccinated.

I picked up my knitting again after several months off and realized I still get eyestrain from it. So it was back to the optometrist to get a single vision prescription for knitting/reading glasses. Now I'm looking for something cheap and pretty online for frames. Meanwhile, I am trying to remember how to knit all the trickier stitches. Knitting and purling are in my body memory, the other stuff I learned this year not so much. But it'll come back, of course.

John and I are getting prescription diving face masks so that we can actually see something when we go snorkeling. Being so very near-sighted means we can't see a blessed thing more than a couple of feet away and you know what fish are like, never conveniently swimming up close where we can see them. It's something I've meant to do for years. Our upcoming Polynesia trip pushed me to get it done. I'm so excited!

Although I have not yet bought a new TV I have bought an excellent piece of furniture to put it on. Which is probably the order in which to do things, of course, but I wasn't even considering that until I noticed a fabulous sale and a stand/storage unit that would fit into our designated space for the future TV. So that's quite a change in the visual of our front room.

The baseball playoffs continue and we are happy that the Milwaukee Brewers are doing well. I don't normally follow basketball, but our local team the Valkyries are doing amazing this season, so I'm an enthusiastic latecomer to the fandom. I don't pay attention to other sports.

Right now I have Swedish coffee, Hawaiian coffee, and coffee roasted over the hill in Santa Cruz in my house. I feel the way I used to feel when I had lots of new books to read: cozy and safe. There aren't many books out on our single bookshelf, we're trying to move most of them along to the charity shops and the library. What few new books I have are on the table next to my end of the sofa. They make me happy. The coffee is on the shelf in the kitchen where I can look at it when I'm in there and feel coffee happiness. Yes, I am a weirdo. But I love what I love.
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I have been thinking this week about isolation.

After several weeks of nagging, I convinced my friend Eleanor to go see a movie with me, Coyote vs. ACME (which is very good, and you should definitely see it). Eleanor, who is in her eighties, lives with her partner Patrick and has been mentioning that she has not been getting out at all. I used to meet her every week for coffee along with a couple of other friends, [personal profile] lydamorehouse and [personal profile] naomikritzer. But we switched to Zoom during the pandemic, and somehow, when the pandemic ended, we never switched back to in-person meetings. It's partly because it's a hassle for Eleanor to get to the coffee shop we met at every week, because she doesn't drive, and partly--I dunno. We just never started again. So going to a movie with her felt like a surprisingly big deal.

I have been thinking about that all week. Going out to a movie with someone is a big deal.

Meeting someone for coffee or dinner or a visit to the theater or a restaurant is a big deal.

Perhaps I have been thinking about it lately because Eleanor has been fretting about her isolation a bit. Perhaps it's that memories of the pandemic are coming back because I just recently had my vaccine shot and people are masking more in public.

I live alone. As I've said before, I'm not meant to live alone. But I think that, since the pandemic, social isolation for me--for everyone--has gotten worse, and society has never quite switched back.

I remember a Steve Sack cartoon that came when America shut down that has haunted me ever since: everyone stuck alone on their own little islands. I'm a widow, and it seemed even worse for me. Everyone in my family was isolating WITH someone. Even my mother, who is also a widow, lived in a community where she could see people, where someone checked in with her every day.

I ran across this article this week, "You are no longer invited for dinner," which really drove the point home. The share of people who have invited people over to their home has declined 70% since 1975. That is an absolutely astounding number.

My Year of Adventure was an attempt to battle this. But I am still bothered by my isolation. Even doing my Year of Adventure, I never invited anyone over to my home for dinner. Not once. What's wrong with me? (My daughters just don't like eating with me for complicated reasons, and I've accepted that. But still.)

I live alone. I don't like it. I am not depressed about it, exactly.

But I am feeling it and thinking about it more than usual this week.

Image description: A woman stands alone on a rock in the sea, her back partially turned away from the viewer, her hand over her eyes, scanning the horizon.

Isolation

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Spooktober 8

Oct. 8th, 2026 09:44 am
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The prompt for Spooktober 8 is...

What are your thoughts on zombies?
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